Loving You for You


This is a hard thing to do, isn’t it? Loving ourselves despite our “flaws.” What is a flaw anyway? I mean, one person’s flaw might be considered another person’s perfection. Why is it that we are so stuck on things like our outside looks? Why is it that even after losing say, 75lbs, we can still look in the mirror and think that we are fat?

So, this line of thinking has been taking over my brain lately. I have these moments when I look at my body and think, “why can’t you be thinner?” Or, “why can’t you get rid of those ‘wings’ on your upper arms?” Why is it so hard to just accept that I’m healthy and fit and just be happy with that? I think that for me, just like with things I do in life, I want to achieve the best possible results. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to work hard and do your best, but I think that sometimes we push ourselves too hard and have unrealistic goals.

I’ve found that loving myself and not seeing myself as the “fat” girl may always be something I have to work to overcome. Or, at least it may be something that takes more time. I may have lost the weight in 8 months and maintained it now for almost four years, but I am still a distance from mentally accepting my smaller size. I’d say that I’m about 80% accepting that I’m a petite, healthy and active female. That 20% gap while it may not seem like a lot, it sure brings the doubts and old feelings back to the surface at times.

I do wonder if these feelings are shared by fellow weight-loss folks. Do they live most of their lives as an overweight guy or gal and then finally change their life only to still question themselves? I do believe the mental aspects of getting healthy and losing weight take far longer to achieve than the actual dropping of the weight.

Each day, I work to tell myself that I’m beautiful no matter if I might be feeling down about my body image or not. I know I’ve discussed this topic on the blog before, but I think it’s an important subject. Loving ourselves should be first and foremost. The perception that skinny is in or makes you better or more beautiful is not true. Each and every one of us is different and beautiful in our own ways. As long as we are healthy, fit and happy, that’s really all that should matter.

Are you working on loving yourself more? I’d love to hear about your thoughts on this subject.


Loving You for You — 7 Comments

  1. I totally understand this feeling 100% I’ve always struggled with the feeling that my body isn’t up to par or good enough for societies standards. But I’ve slowly started realizing that nurturing the things my body is capable of doing is way more important than being a skinny little thing. I know you’re capable of the same things too (you’re an awesome runner!) and we should celebrate that!

  2. I think its not only about what size you are, we all feel we are flawed in some way. And the media is about 90% to blame.
    We compare, especially women. We are all beautiful, and it starts with us to think that way.
    I am always worried about the extra pound, did I eat too much, why didn’t I exercise today. These are thoughts that come and go all day, but at the end of the day I also realize how Blessed I am. I am healthy, strong, and happy.

  3. No one is perfect. There is no such thing. I think we all have parts of our bodies that maybe we dislike, but these are our bodies, living our lives. I could pick myself apart all day long, but at the end of the day, no one is every going to remember my spider veins or my less-than-6-pack abs or any of that. I firmly believe that who we are on the inside shines through and makes us beautiful on the outside. Strength and determination are among the true markers of beauty.

  4. I still see my “old” body when I look in the mirror. It’s been about three years since I’ve dropped the weight but I still find myself buying clothes in the sizes I used to wear because I’m “not quite there yet”. It’s something I’m definitely working on!


  5. I hear you, it’s not an easy process. But yes, it is worth it in the long run. I do feel better than I ever have in my life.

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